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If you are reading this, then you are either a soon-to-be birth mother who may be considering adoption for her unborn child, someone who has not considered adoption but has had their interest piqued by the title of this ad, or someone who is not expecting at all but is just curious as to what we have to say. Regardless of which you are (or if you do not exactly fall in any of those categories), we want to thank you now for taking your time to read this and get to know us a little bit. While we know that posting an ad on CraigsList seems a little unorthodox, we also know that the possibility of potentially making a connection with a birth mother makes it worthwhile.
To our future birth mother, if you are reading this, we want you to know that we already love you and your little one. We want you to know that we wholeheartedly believe that you are a good mother, that the time and thought and energy you are putting into making this decision makes you a good mother. While I do not know who you are, I do know that you and I are as intimately connected as any two women can be. I can only imagine that your heart is breaking right now as you think of his or her birth and your potential decision to give him or her a chance at something different. If I could tell you anything, it would be to ensure you that he or she is loved with not only your whole heart, but mine as well. I would tell you, too, how incredibly grateful I am for the chance to be this amazing child's mother, and how unbelievably humbled I am to one day receive the gift of your little one. There are no words for that kind of gratitude. I want you to know that I will keep him or her safe and healthy and happy. It is not the life you hoped for or imagined for him or her (of that I'm certain), but my promise to you is that I will do the very best I can to give him or her the best opportunities for happiness and success. I promise, too, to honor your memory every chance I get. You and I will always be connected: the mother that carried him or her and gave them life and loves them from afar, and the mother that has been blessed with the unimaginable gift of being called "Mommy" and being here to kiss the boo-boos and chase away the bad dreams. Thank you, birth mother. Thank you for making the decision that you are. I am eternally grateful to you. May you always be aware of the profound joy that you are bringing forth into the world and may your life be blessed with beauty, wonder, and happiness. My love goes to you and to the part of you that will always live within our child.
A little about us:
My husband and I met while we were undergraduates in college and immediately fell for each other, although it took him a little while to summon the courage to ask me on a date; we've been together ever since. After college, we moved to Cincinnati and began our careers as well as graduate school. We are both in the social work/healthcare field and love our jobs. We own our own home and have a few very sweet and gentle dogs. Last year, we were blessed with an incredible little girl, also through adoption. Both coming from rather large families, we feel very strongly that our daughter should have siblings, and we would like for them to be somewhat close to her in age. In our free time, we volunteer at our church, visit local parks, go to the zoo/aquarium/conservatory, and spend time with our families. I love to read, watch movies, go for walks, and do arts and crafts with our daughter. My husband loves to be active, and his hobbies include building furniture, painting and drawing, going for walks/hiking local trails, running and biking with our daughter, and playing/watching sports. We do not have a preference for gender, race, etc., nor are we only looking for a newborn child - we are open and approved to adopt toddlers and children in the early childhood age range. Other characteristics such as substance exposure, diagnosed disability, and maternal illnesses will be considered on a case-by-case basis. If you and/or your child fits into one of these categories, please do not hesitate to contact us! We only put this as a small disclaimer because we want to ensure that we are the best family for your child, meaning that we want to make sure that we are as equipped as possible to handle any known problems.
Our vision for our family (and you!):
We hope to continue to grow our family and eventually have three or four children. With our daughter, per her birth mother's request, we have a closed adoption. She felt that that was best for her, her family, and our daughter, which we respected and supported. What we want the most is to help you in your journey and support whatever plan you have for your child. If that plan is a closed adoption, then we will respect that boundary. If you would like limited contact, such as monthly pictures and updates, we would be more than happy to provide that for you. If you would like more of an open adoption with visits, phone calls and video chatting, we would also love that. We would love for you to become a part of our family as well, if that is something you are interested in. Our plan for our daughter is to ensure that she knows her birth mother loved (and always will love) her and that she believed that the best thing for her was to find another family who would love her just as much - we were that lucky family. We have helped to build a beautiful adoption story for her, and we will support her in the future if she decides that she would like to pursue a relationship with her birth family. The same ideals would apply for your child. We have a warm home with massive amounts of love to give.
Other miscellaneous information:
We have an approved home study and are working with an independent adoption attorney. The laws for independent adoption in Ohio are unique and very different from surrogacy laws, family adoption laws, etc. If you have any questions, we would be happy to answer them for you or point you in the right direction. Typically, the adoptive family covers the expenses for their attorney and the birth mother's attorney. If the birth mother does not have medical coverage, Medicaid can be applied for prior to the child's birth to ensure all of the hospital bills are taken care of. The only other expenses would be expenses for the birth mother which the adoptive family can potentially take care of, however these must be related directly to the pregnancy (i.e. doctor bills or something similar), pre-approved by a judge, and the money would go directly to the source of the bill. If we could provide any advice to birth mothers, it would be to make sure that you have an outside, third party (such as a competent attorney) on your side to ensure that everything is conducted in a safe and legal manner. We already love our future child's birth mother, whoever and wherever she is, and we only want to ensure that she (and every other birth mother) has full knowledge of her rights.
After reading all of that, you deserve a medal. We know it is so much to take in on top of the immense decision that you are considering, but we believe fiercely in being as transparent and honest as possible. If you think that we may be a family that you want to consider, please do not hesitate to reach out. We are using an email relay only at this time to protect ourselves and our family, but we can provide a phone number and potentially meet in person after the initial email. If nothing else, we hope that we have given you a sliver of peace and some knowledge to take with you in your journey.
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